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  • "If you're tired of the conflicts, misunderstandings,
    and upsets in your relationship

...Then you may be ready for a breakthrough.


  • If You desire more love, trust and intimacy, in your relationship...

...Then you may be ready for a breakthrough.


  • If you crave open, honest and compassionate communication where both of you feel heard, understood and valued - even if you totally disagree...

...Then you may be ready for a breakthrough.

  • If you to get rid of boredom in the bedroom and bring back the connection, pleasure and passion...


...Then you may be ready for a breakthrough.


  • If you confused, frustrated and maybe even heartbroken about not getting your met in - or even having your needs seem to matter anymore... well you get the idea


...Then you may be ready for a breakthrough.


And you are not alone - that is why I created the Relationship Breakthrough Process...

Meet Paul Sterling, Relationship & Intimacy Coach

Getting Started

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Every journey starts with a single step... the first step here is set up your Relationship Breakthrough session...


The Cost - about 1/4 of a house payment - less than one car payment - about the same price as my last evening out, with hotel in San Francisco...  $397.00


The Value - Priceless, many clients have said that got more from that one deep dive, intense session that from years of working with other professionals...


STEP #1 Find a Date and Time on the calendar below.


STEP #2 Secure your appointment with a credit card payment


STEP #3 Answer the Questions on The Relationship Assessment


STEP #4 Grab some popcorn and watch this 15-minute video together

STEP #5 Meet me on ZOOM for our Relationship Breakthrough Session


Most likely, you are here because you want more from your relationship. More love, more trust, more open and honest communication and more intimacy.


But you may not know how to make that happen or where to start. Don't worry, you're in the right place.


That is why I created the Relationship Breakthrough Process.

During this process which includes a survey and deep dive 90-minute conversation you will:

  1.  DECIDE where you would like your relationship to be 90 days from now. What about a year from now? What RESULTS do you REALLY want? Your dreams and desires.

  2. UNCOVER where you are now, your current REALITY. And... discover which of the 7 persistent patterns that are causing most of your relationship ISSUES. Your frustrations and fears.

  3. DISCOVER the relationship roadblocks that are keeping you stuck in a relationship rut. You will explore the impact of each of your 5 possible OPTIONS.

  4. CHOOSE the best plan of action that will help you overcome your fears and frustrations and move you closer to your dreams and desires.

  5. COMMIT to yourself and to your partner and then take the first step today.

By the end of our candid conversation, you can choose which plan of ACTION you are going to take. Walk away with clarity, courage and a commitment to your plan.

The journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step…


  • You are talking again, openly, honestly and vulnerably, and feeling safe doing it. You both will feel heard, understood and valued.


  • Your NEEDS MATTER - Explore your 7 precious, necessary needs, learn how to identify them, talk about them, have them matter and get them met.


  • Get back that Loving Feeling. Intimacy is fun and exciting again and you go from "No Thanks, not tonight" to "OMG  let's do that again"


If you want all this and more... you are in the right place.


But know this is not some quick fix short term band-aid or new fad to manipulate your partner.

Yes, it is work... and yes, it takes some work...



“After our Breakthrough Session with Paul, we were excited and knew that this is whom we needed to work with in order to make immediate and deep lasting changes. 

We felt we could tackle our issues, learn practical communication skills, and get 
mastery of them faster and more directly than we had  in two years  of traditional couples counseling. 

We knew we would be expertly guided through our difficulties, and felt we would emerge stronger and more compassionately as a couple and as individuals.”

J & K, Kapaa, Kauai



“After just the initial two-hour session my husband and I were able to use those tools on our own upsets … 

We were an hour and a half into our drive home when I realized we were talking about our toughest issues with calm compassion and understanding instead of upset and hurt. Thank you so much for such an amazing gift.”


S.J.,  Estes Park, Colorado

Step #1

Decide Your Relationship is Worth Saving...

Relationship Breakthrough Process
Start by taking the Survey... Your Answers Will Help Me Help You

  • Next - it's video time... You Will Watch a 15 Minute video that prepares you for our session together

  • Live Interactive ZOOM Session - during our time together, you will get clear
     ** which of the 7 Persistent Problems is causing your relationship the most problems 
    ** which of the 5 Options you want
    ** and which of the 3 possible Actions are you going to take...

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“We attended one of Paul's communication workshops, then had a 45-minute private session with him. Working with Paul was wonderful. We were a bit nervous talking to someone about our personal life. 

Paul put us at ease very quickly. His technique is relaxing and feels safe. We liked the session so much we decided to continue working with Paul. We would recommend Paul to anyone.”


D & M Kauai

Step #2

Pick a Day & Time

Next, make improving your relationship a priority and pick
a date and time to meet that works for both of you.


(Meeting options - video chat over ZOOM,
or phone, 
or we meet in person Santa Cruz)

"We had amazing breakthroughs about empathy and being able meet each other's needs. I couldn't believe that he was able to help us through our most intense moments, and I have never had such an effective therapy. 

K.S. Santa Cruz, Ca.

Step #3



Now, Help Me, Help You... please answer
the relationship assessment questions so that I can prepare for our time together.

Make sure both you and your partner 

answer these questions before our session together.

Relationship Assessment Survey

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Step #4



Now pop some popcorn and snuggle up together on your favorite couch

And then watch this 15-minute video to prepare yourself for our: 

Relationship Breakthrough Session.

Step #5


Attend Your Relationship Breakthrough Session.

See you soon and we will cover...


* Your desired results.


* Your current reality


* Your biggest roadblocks

and... create your plan

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  • What is a 'Courageous Love Breakthrough Session'?
    It is a chance to take an in depth, deep dive look at your relationship in 3 key areas. 1) Where do you want it to be? Results you want, your dreams and desires... 2) Where is it now? Reality now, your issues, frustrations and fears... 3) What is getting in the way? Relationship roadblocks...
  • Who should be on the call?
    It is important that both of you are on the call, because if you don't agree on the problem, you won't agree on the solution.
  • Why does relationship coaching fail?
    When relationship coaching fails, there are 3 main reasons 1) If the couple doesn't agree on the problem, they won't agree on the soltuion. 2) WIIFM - WEIT. (What's In It For Me) - (What Ever It Takes) If both parites aren't clear what's it for them, they won't do what ever it takes. 3) Commitment and accountiblity. Change is often hard, it takes making a strong commitment and having someone hold you accountable to that commitment.
  • What should I do to get ready?
    1) Schedule your time - 2) Take the Survey - 3) Grab some popcorn and your partner and watch this 15 minute video
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