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ATTENTION COUPLES: Do you want to bring your relationship back to life and reawaken the love, intimacy, connection, and communication.

You Don’t Have To Be Screaming At Each Other Every Single Day...Or Dealing With Some Major Crisis Like An Affair... To Want A Breakthrough In Your Relationship… Maybe You Just Feel Stuck In A Relationship Rut Or Want Better Connection And Communication…

In 90 Minutes We Get To The Bottom Of Your Relationship Issue And Lay Out What It Will Take To Turn It Around.


Are you tired of feeling disconnected, attacked, belittled, ignored, defensive, confused, frustrated, overwhelmed and upset with each other?

Are you sick of wondering why your lover no longers wants to listen to you.. or to make love?


Are you having a hard time remembering the last time your needs mattered and felt precious? 

Are you wondering what happened and where your best friend and lover went?

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Do you want to spend more time feeling, adored, cherished, respected, appreciated and enjoying each other?

Do you long for your lover listen and really want to hear what you have to say, understand what you meant and value how you feel?

Do you want both of you to feel your needs matter again and are precious to each other?

Do you want to rekindle the connection and your best friend, partner, and lover back?

“We came to Paul as a last-ditch effort to save my relationship.  

We had tried everything I could think of to get my relationship "unstuck" over many years and nothing worked.  With 20-years of marriage, my wife and I had advanced skills in making the other feel like the source of the problems and had acquired advanced attack/defense routines that would play-out over-and-over without resolution. 


We figured if a psychologist couldn't help, then how could a relationship coach be of benefit.  All I can say is, that I'm glad we took the chance with Paul - it's making a huge difference for us.  As a couple, we interact differently and have gotten rid of most of the detrimental communication patterns we had fallen into and couldn't get out of by ourselves.  We are happier and more open with one another now and enjoy the new space that has opened up for us.


Our thanks go to Paul as well as our recommendation.  He's exceptionally good at what he does."


 - M.L. San Diego, CA

Loving someone is one of the most courageous and vulnerable things we ever do. It can very rewarding or totally heart-breaking... and sometimes all of us need a little help.

That is why I created the Courageous Love Breakthrough Process...

I work with couples that want to bring their relationship back to life and reawaken their love, intimacy, connection, and communication.

Let me introduce myself, I'm Paul Sterling, the Best-Selling Author of ARGUE LESS, LOVE MORE, the Creator of The Magic Relationship Method and I'm a Relationship, 
Intimacy & Communication Coach.

I created this website to let you know I'm now available for 1-on-1 Couples Coaching Sessions...

Most of my clients have tried almost everything before coming to me. They generally successful, smart, committed and still love each, but almost everything they tried, just made the situation worse.

Some of the issues people want to work through:

* Communication breakdowns

* Not feeling heard, understood or valued

* Persistent Painful Conflicts

* Clearing up Painful Misunderstandings

* The Past Upsets, Issues Keep Coming Up


* Broken Agreements - Betrayals -  Lost Trust

* Jealousy

* Dealing with Decisions, Difficulties & Differences

* Can I really be me and still be in a relationship with you

* The Intimacy is going or gone & They Want it Back

* They both get Triggered when talking about important issues


* Needs don't seem to Matter and Aren't Getting Met

If you want better answers, you have to ask better questions... 

During this process, we take a deep dive into your issues, options, and possible actions you can take:

  1. How is this problem impacting your relationship and your future?

  2. What would we rather have instead?

  3. Is this problem worth solving? 

  4. Am I willing to do what it takes to solve it?

  5. What actions do I want to take?

By the end of our candid conversation, you will feel clear, courageous and  committed to your future. 

Does that sound good?

“After many attempts at couples work with other individuals, working with Paul has finally helped my partner and I breakthrough to a new place of understanding and appreciation for one another."

Jessie, Essex Junction VT

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Every journey starts with a single step...
the first step here is set up your
Relationship Breakthrough Session...


The Cost - less than one car
payment - about the same price
as my last evening out, with a
hotel in San Francisco...  $397.00


The Value - Priceless, many clients
have said that got more from that one
deep dive, intense session that from years
of working with other professionals...


Just find a Date and Time on the calendar below then secure your appointment with a credit card payment

“After just the initial two-hour session my husband and I were able to use those tools on our own upsets … 

We were an hour and a half into our drive home when I realized we were talking about our toughest issues with calm compassion and understanding instead of upset and hurt. Thank you so much for such an amazing gift.”


S.J. - Estes Park, Colorado

Pick a Day & Time

Make improving your relationship a priority and pick a day and time to meet that works for both of you and secure that time with your credit card.

(Meeting options - video chat over ZOOM, or phone, or meet in person.)

After Using My Process, The Wife Told Me:

  • She got back her feminine power – and went from feeling like he had all the power and the final say…   to understanding that he wants to be her hero and to make her happy

  • That she could use the “Can You Hear Me Now – Communication Process” to enter his world and really hear, understand and value him.

    • That gave her more patience, confidence, compassion in connection with her lover

    • It also gave her the chance to go much deeper into his world

  • She was also able to discover which of her seven core needs was beneath almost all of her upsets

  • She was able to identify limiting beliefs and like go of them

  • She stopped taking his masculinity personally and started to understand and appreciating the differences between the sexes

    • She also understood when he was "single-focused" – in his hunter mode and not to try to get his attention when it wasn’t available

  • She got clear on the power of her words

    • She also stopped saying what you didn’t want and let him know what she did want...

After Using My Process, The Husband Told Me

  • They aren't taking themselves so seriously and having much more fun

  • He got to understand the difference between men and women in a way that was empowering for both

  • He saw sex as a great indicator of how connected they are.  Sort of a canary in the coal mine way of telling whether the relationship was in good shape or not

  • He loved that he was able to really enter her world so that she felt heard, understood and valued – and he felt like her hero

    • He stopped worrying about what he said and became very interested in what she heard – this was a huge breakthrough

  • He loved that they both became aware of the impact of using any language that implies BSW (Bad, stupid, wrong)

  • He discovered the power of speaking in Chunks and not overwhelming his partner. Chunking Down information so it was more absorbable

    • He also got to understand the difference between chunking for the masculine and chunking for the feminine.

    • It also helped him stop taking it personally when his beloved asked him to slow down a use smaller chunks

  • He stopped playing to lose and started playing to win

  • He became a lot more patient and supportive of her


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  • What is a 'Courageous Love Breakthrough Session'?
    It is a chance to take an in depth, deep dive look at your relationship in 3 key areas. 1) Where do you want it to be? Results you want, your dreams and desires... 2) Where is it now? Reality now, your issues, frustrations and fears... 3) What is getting in the way? Relationship roadblocks...
  • Who should be on the call?
    It is important that both of you are on the call, because if you don't agree on the problem, you won't agree on the solution.
  • Why does relationship coaching fail?
    When relationship coaching fails, there are 3 main reasons 1) If the couple doesn't agree on the problem, they won't agree on the soltuion. 2) WIIFM - WEIT. (What's In It For Me) - (What Ever It Takes) If both parites aren't clear what's it for them, they won't do what ever it takes. 3) Commitment and accountiblity. Change is often hard, it takes making a strong commitment and having someone hold you accountable to that commitment.
  • What should I do to get ready?
    1) Schedule your time - 2) Take the Survey - 3) Grab some popcorn and your partner and watch this 15 minute video

"We had amazing breakthroughs about empathy and being able meet each other's needs. I couldn't believe that he was able to help us through our most intense moments, and I have never had such an effective therapy. 

K.S. Santa Cruz, Ca.

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