5 Signs Your Relationship Is Worth Saving

aul Sterling, relationship coach and the best-selling author of Argue Less - Love More, reveals his most powerful method for helping couples deal with difficult situations and turn their relationships around.

“Do You Ever Feel Like You Are Walking On A Tight Rope In Your Relationship? Isn't It Time To 'Bridge The Gap' Between You And Get Your Relationship Back On Solid Ground?”

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Thank you for your courage and commitment to bridging the gap between you... and bringing back the love, intimacy, compassion, connection, understanding, and communication you desire. 

When people come to me for relationship coaching, they often show up feeling confused, hurt, discouraged, skeptical, and a little bit hopeful that there may be a solution. 

They are confused because nothing they have tried has worked so far, hurt because of a growing gap between them, discouraged because the problems have gone on way too long... skeptical because nothing has really worked so far.

And, at the same time, they are excited about the possibility of finding a way out of their current situation, wanting a way off the emotional relationship rollercoaster.

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Here is a partial list of the issues they are dealing with in their relationship. Read through it and see which ones you relate to?

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  • Communicating In A Way That Feels Combative Or Defensive or Both - Where Anything You Say Can and Will Be Used Against You To Make You Feel Bad, Stupid & Wrong - ahhh

  • It doesn’t feel safe to be vulnerable anymore to talk about what’s alive and important to you 

    The more you talk about ‘IT’, the worse it gets… but not talking about ‘IT’ doesn’t help either

  • Arguments tend to be about who is right - who is wrong… battling over who said, or did what... when they did or didn’t do it... and you never get down to the real issues. 

  • You (or your partner) Feel Like Your Needs Are A Burden That You Both Avoid... And Under That Is The Feeling That You Are a Burden and Don't Really Matter

  • Sometimes the people you love the most, are the most difficult to talk to. You feel like you are speaking different languages. Why can't they understand what you are saying and how you feel? It's as if there's an invisible wall between you

  • You Feel Like The Gap Between You Is Growing to The Point Where It Feels at time Bigger Than The Grand Canyon and as Impossible To Cross

  • It’s like Ground Hog Day, the same upsets, issues and fights day after day - each morning, waking up hoping it will be different


  • Little things get blown up into big upsets - you feel like you are tiptoeing through an emotional landmine, where you can’t do or say anything right. And, you never know what's going to blow up in your face.

  • Difficulties making decisions around finances, kids, careers, dreams and or goals

Communicating In A Way That Feels Combative Or Defensive or Both - Where Anything You Say Can and Will Be Used Against You To Make You Feel Bad, Stupid & Wrong - ahhh

It doesn’t feel safe to be vulnerable anymore to talk about what’s alive and important to you 

The more you talk about ‘IT’, the worse it gets… but not talking about ‘IT’ doesn’t help either

Arguments tend to be about who is right - who is wrong… battling over who said, or did what... when they did or didn’t do it... and you never get down to the real issues.

 

You (or your partner) Feel Like Your Needs Are A Burden That You Both Avoid... And Under That Is The Feeling That You Are a Burden and Don't Really Matter

Sometimes the people you love the most, are the most difficult to talk to. You feel like you are speaking different languages. Why can't they understand what you are saying and how you feel? It's as if there's an invisible wall between you

You Feel Like The Gap Between You Is Growing to The Point Where It Feels at time Bigger Than  The Grand Canyon and as Impossible To Cross

It’s like Ground Hog Day, the same upsets, issues and fights day after day - each morning, waking up hoping it will be different


Little things get blown up into big upsets - you feel like you are tiptoeing through an emotional landmine, where you can’t do or say anything right. And, you never know what's going to blow up in your face.

Difficulties making decisions around finances, kids, careers, dreams and or goals

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I know that this is only a partial list. But, read the list again and make a note of which of these issues are causing your relationship the most problems?

 

My passion is figuring out what works... and what doesn't work in relationships. What brings couples closer (bridging the gap between you)... and what drives couples apart (widening the gap between you).

Couples from many different countries have reached out for coaching in their relationships and no matter where they're from, most couples I talk to want the same things and want to avoid the same things.

My name is Paul Sterling, I have been coaching couples to successfully bridge the gap between them for over 25 years. 

What I'm going to do here, is simplify things for you.

There are hundreds, if not thousands of things, both big and small that influence and impact our relationships... Luckily there are less than 10 core skills you need to master to handle almost all of the problems you run into...

 

 

 

Here is what one of my mentors, Tony Robbins, had to say about the single, most important relationship skill and it's power.

 

"The quality of your relationship is based on the quality of your communication."

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And that one skill is where I 'm going to focus today. 

COMMUNICATION.

A very specific kind of communication - Compassionate Communication!

"At The Heart Of Almost Ever Relationship
Problem Is a Communication Problem.

And...

 If You Change The Way You Communicate, You Can
Change Your Relationship With Anyone... Including Yourself."

Some of what I have to say here will be obvious and I hope you already know it and most likely, some of this will be new to you.

And at the end of this page - there is an invitation for you if you want to join me and to master compassionate communication.

I'll start with some obvious points. 

Relationships can be messy, confusing, frustrating, scary, uncomfortable, painful and even heartbreaking at times. They can lift you up to cloud nine and then bring you down to your knees wondering WTF just happened?

They affect almost every aspect of your life, either positively or negatively. Starting with your self-esteem, it's easy to feel like something is wrong with you if there is something wrong with your relationship.  It affects your moods which impact your productivity, your relationships with family and friends, your work, your very health and much, much more...

Let me ask you a question: "If you want to be a remarkable athlete what do you need?" 

 No doubt, luck can help, but the real answer is - 'Remarkable athletic skills.'

Read this next statement and see how it impacts you?

"If you want a remarkable relationship...you will need remarkable relationship skills."

Most of us were taught how to talk, but very few of us were taught the remarkable relationship skill of communicating compassionately.
  
* Being able to listen so that your partner wants to talk to you and when they do, they feel heard, understood and valued.

* Being able to talk so that your partner really wants to listen to you and you get to feel heard, understood and valued. 

Without this skill, most relationships don't stand a chance.

Here is what the creator of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), Marshall Rosenberg, told me about the 'NORMAL OUTCOME MOST COMMUNICATION'...

"The normal outcome of most communication... is misunderstanding"   

Simply put, our communication skills are either pushing us further apart - or bridging the gap between us. 

The gap normally starts small enough, but it grows with each unresolved issue. It can be lots of small events over time that keep nagging at us or a few big upsets that don't get resolved. 

Jealousies, hurt feelings, misunderstandings, conflicts, breaches of trust, broken agreements, lack of emotional, physical and sexual intimacy, needs not met anymore, all make the gaps larger and drive couples further apart. 

The gap can also come from settling in your relationship when you know it was meant for more.

Most likely, the gap isn't your fault - if you were brought up like me, by parents who were doing their best but didn't really know how to communicate compassionately - how were you supposed to learn?

This is why I have created this course...

Bridging the Gap Between Us
Compassionate Communication Course For Couples

This Course Is For Couples Who
Really Want A Remarkable Relationship

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A Feeling of Gratitude and Appreciation for Each Other. Hope For The Future That Their Relationship Will Keep Getting Better and Better

A Heathy Amount of Emotional, Physical, and Sexual Intimacy Along With Romance & Passion

To Have A Safe Space to Communicate Openly, Honestly, Vulnerably and Compassionately - Where They Both Feel Heard, Understood And Valued

To Be Able To Resolve Conflicts With Courage And Compassion In A Way That Brings You Closer and Creates a Safe Space For Differences of Opinions and Desires

A Solid Foundation Of Trust and Safety - Where Someone Has Their Back

And Here Is One Of The Most Important Ones, But Rarely Talked About, To Feel Like Your Needs Are Precious To Your Partner And Theirs Are Precious to You 

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“If You Want to Bridge The Gap Between You … You'll Want These Compassionate Communication Secrets …”

This Course Was Designed to Do 3 Things 

1) How much fun is it to talk to someone when they are triggered, or upset or don't feel heard, understood or valued? How much fun are you to talk to when triggered etc.? 

I am guessing: NOT MUCH...

But what can we do about it?

LOTS - It turns out there are 5 common communication mistakes that almost everyone makes but very few us know when we are making them. All we know is that someone is in reaction, taking things personally or making them personal. 

Module #1 Will Help you Stop Doing Damage. You will be to identify and avoid these mistakes most of the time... and when you don't, and you end up upsetting your partner... well that is what module #2 is for reconnecting, resolving conflict, clearing up misunderstandings. 

2) Have you ever noticed that the people you love the most, are often the most difficult to talk to?


And… the more you try to talk to them about important and emotional issues, the worse things get… and you end up stuck in a downward spiral to relationship hell...

What if there was a way to communicate that brought you closer in those tough times. In fact, this method was at its best when the situation is at its worst? 

Wouldn't that be cool?

Mastering Module #2 Will Help You Communicate Compassionately in even the toughest of times. You will amaze yourself with your ability to give heart-opening empathy to your partner when they're in pain, to enter their world so powerfully that they feel heard, understood and valued, and you will be blown away with your new skill to clear up misunderstandings in minutes and resolve conflicts with confidence, compassion, and curiosity.


This is where you make major headway in closing the Gap Between You...

What you learn in this module will change the way you look at communication forever. To me it was like being given the box top to a jigsaw puzzle, suddenly I knew where the different pieces of communication fit in. 

3) Module #1 showed you how to stop hurting your relationship by the way you communicate. Which can be incredibly helpful? Then Module #2 gave you the four steps to Instant intimacy… and now on to Module #3 - the icing on the cake.

There're hundreds, if not thousands of things both big and small that influence your relationship on a daily basis. Wouldn't it be nice to have a short list of tips, tools, and techniques that are pretty much guaranteed to work?

This is that list. Module #3 gives you 7 Keys To The Kingdom. Each time you use one of these 7 tips, tools or techniques, it will bring you closer together.

Don't try to learn them all at once but pick one that you're going to focus on for the week or even for the month and watch what happens to your communication, your intimacy and your love life

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Here's The Logistical Stuff You May Want To Know... 

Bridging The Gap Between Us: Is an online course that has 3 main modules and is designed to be taken over 3 weeks. You can compress that amount of time, or drag it out, depending on your learning style.

Each module has 4 or 5 lessons. These pre-recorded lessons are short (15 - 26 minutes)  audios in MP3 format. These MP3s are downloadable onto your computer, phone, ipod so that you can listen to them from almost anywhere, commuting to work, working out at the gym or doing the dishes...

There is also a journal you can download and print out so you can take notes and track your progress.

Transcripts are included if you want to follow along with the audio

Printable Handouts to use for the exercises
 

Here's What The Course Can Do For You, If You Apply it...

Week 1) THE 5 PAINFUL COMMUNICATIONS MISTAKES - Stop Doing Damage    

 Be able to identify them, know when you are making them and learn how to avoid these 5 mistakes in the future. You will also discover how to heal quickly and get back on track when someone gets triggered by one of these mistakes. 


Making Mistake #1 will cause your partner to stop listening to you and shut down emotionally, pulling away as fast as they can...

Making Mistake #3 causes about 90% of all misunderstandings - this one is so simple to fix once you know what it is...

Making Mistake #5 this one is the big intimacy blocker - it was also the hardest one for me to overcome... but when I did, it made all the difference.
 

 

What's this mean to you...?


Well since making these mistakes INCREASES THE GAP between you... knowing how to avoid them and how to clean up the hurt feelings when you do make them will BRIDGE THAT GAP. 

You will dramatically reduce the number of upsets, misunderstandings, and conflicts you have with your partner and at the same time increase the amount of open & honest communication you have between you... 

 

Week 2) THE 4 STEPS TO INSTANT INTIMACY     

Master this simple (not always easy) 4 step method and you will be able to enter your partner's world so deeply they may think you can read their mind. 

What's this mean to you...? 

When you listen to the people you love using this method, they will feel heard, understood & valued. Think about that -  how would that impact your lover, your family members, your kids?

You can dissolve disagreements, clear up misunderstandings in minutes and meet conflicts with courage, compassion and even curiosity...
 

Week 3) THE 7 SECRETS TO A REMARKABLE RELATIONSHIP   

Apply just one of THESE 7 SACRED SECRETS - each week and watch the smile come back for both of you

Use Tip #1 and you will make your partner feel like a winner. This one super-simple and effective, you can try it tonight.

Tip #2 shows you what the greatest gift you can give is... I guarantee this will shock you. Hint, it has nothing to do with the bedroom...

Tip #4 is the big intimacy builder - it shows why the people you are listening to rarely feel heard and what to do about - this is a game-changer.

Tip #7 when people said, "Don't sweat the small stuff" they were so wrong. When you understand this one, you will see why that actually grows the gap instead of bridging it.

What's this mean to you...? 

Your future will start to look pretty damn bright. You will discover How to Make Daily Deposits In Your Relationship Account 

What is bridging the gap worth to you?

I had one client come and tell me they had seen 6 therapists and spent $1,000s and $1,000s of dollars before coming to me and learning the Bridging The Gap Between Us Method...

They came in feeling skeptical and pretty hopeless. At the end of our work together they called it the "Gold Standard" and they continue to use the tools they learned on a daily basis.

Many years ago I traveled to Sweden and spend almost a month immersed in international training with people from around the world all gathered to learn... and share the secrets of Compassionate Communication. 

That was the best $5,500 I ever invested in myself and my relationship.

I know that you may not have a spare $5,500 and a month of free time to spend traveling around the world... so I took over one hundred hours and created this course for you...

The best part is I bring it to you, you can get the lessons over your laptop, cell phone, tablet, ipod - and even though it's worth much more than $5,500 to me, it's won't cost you a fraction of that.

Imagine the impact it would have on your
relationship... and your future if you could...

* Avoid the 5 most common communication mistakes that cause most of your relationship upsets, trigger your partner and destroy any chance of intimacy or connection

* Talk about important, emotional and stressful issues without taking it personally or making it personal?

* Have challenging conversations without the need for attacking your partner or defending yourself?

* Instantly create intimacy and understanding with your lover?

* Clear up misunderstandings in minutes rather than days?

* Resolve conflicts quickly, confidently, compassionately and with curiosity?

* Talk in a way that your partner really wants to listen and understand you?

* Listen in a way that even the most silent of partners want to open up and tell you everything?

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Here is what couples are saying about Paul's method...

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“I was desperate for better communication with my beloved. We felt like cats and dogs trying to get along and understand one another. This course gave us the tools, language and infrastructure we both successfully use. We now feel a breath of new possibility for our future and feel a new level of intimacy and love that is deeply fulfilling and exciting.”

Melodia
San Diego, CA

“Paul gave us some simple tools to use the very first session and we noticed a difference right away. Each week we learned more tools and Paul helped us to strengthen the ones he taught us in the beginning. We really appreciate the convenience of using Skype for our sessions. Our relationship had never been better, our only regret is we did not find him 25 years ago.”

Rick and Sandy
- Phoenix AZ

“I started out feeling hopeless and alienated in my marriage. I wondered if it was over and used this workshop as my last effort. I came away feeling empowered, hopeful and willing to surrender to unconditionally loving my partner. The future is wide open and we get to choose from awareness not paying.”

Linda P.
-- NY, NY

“After many attempts at couples work with other individuals, working with Paul has finally helped my partner and I breakthrough to a new place of understanding and appreciation for one another."

Jessie
- Essex Junction VT
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So This Sounds Good, I Want These Results, What's The Catch...? 

I know for me, when I see something that sounds this good and I really want it, my brain goes what's the catch? There are two of them here...

So here you go, and even though this is somewhat obvious, I'm going to say what the Catch is anyway. 

First catch, If you want these results, you have to do the work. I know it sucks - I too wish there was a pill but there just isn't one.

The second catch - it doesn't work every time on everyone... there are people who are more committed to their pain than to reconnecting with you.

That said, I have taught this method to a very wide variety of people ranging from maximum security inmates to Goodwill Service, from at-risk youth to university professors and from couples counselors and therapists to the couples they counsel and I have never seen anything more effective.

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Here is my Promise to You...

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Got Questions? Here are some answers for you...

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 What If My Partner Won't Do It, Should I Do It By Myself?

 What we are in crisis and need some help now?

 What if i can't keep up - I'm very busy?

 How can I get my partner to do this with me?

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Now here is my invitation to you...

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You have read this far... so I am guessing you are committed to stop the suffering and find a solution. 

Fair enough?

But here is the problem. Information by itself rarely changes anything. If you really want to transform your relationship skills, you have to integrate that information into a daily practice. To move towards mastery.

If you know that your relationship was meant for more... and if this calls to you, then now is the time to take action and Bridge The Gap in your relationship.

"You didn't come this far, only to come this far... You were made for more. More Love, More Intimacy, More Romance, More Open and Honest Communication and More Understanding.

Let's get started today -  here's what to do. Scroll to the bottom of the page, fill out the info below and start lesson #1 today.

Then make a commitment to yourself that you are going to complete it... It won't always be easy, but it will be worth it. Your relationship is worth it and more importantly, you are worth it.

Bridging the Gap Between Us
Compassionate Communication Course For Couples

 

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Let's recap what you get...

Module 1) THE 5 PAINFUL COMMUNICATIONS MISTAKES

Stop Triggering Each and Damaging Your Relationship. Spend Less Time Upsetting Each Other 
and More Time Enjoying Each Other                                                             (Value $197)

Module 2) THE 4 STEPS TO INSTANT INTIMACY  

Create Instant Intimacy, Resolve Conflicts, Clear up Misunderstandings In Minutes, Listen So Your Lover Wants to talk & Talk So You Lover Wants to Listen and You Both Feel Heard, Understood and Valued                                                                                            (Value $197)

Module 3) THE 7 SECRETS TO A REMARKABLE RELATIONSHIP 

These are the 7 Keys To The Kingdom - These 7 tips and techniques are like having a roadmap taking you towards a Remarkable Relationship                                       (Value $197)

                                                                                 Total Value of Modules    (Total Value  $591)

To Help You Get What You Want As Soon As Possible... I have added some Bonuses.

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BONUS 1) ARGUE LESS, LOVE MORE: Get instant access to my best selling book: 
This book is a deep dive into what to do… and what not to do if you want your partner to talk to you. It is easy to read and full of examples and exercises                                                                       (value $19) 

BONUS 2) IF YOU WANT A REMARKABLE RELATIONSHIP... YOU'LL WANT THESE REMARKABLE RELATIONSHIP SKILLS: Compassionate Communication is one of the 7 Critical Relationship Skills That You Will Want To Master. This will be a live and interactive webinar.              (value $197) 

BONUS 3) INTIMACY DOESN'T START IN THE BEDROOM: Time to increase the amount of pleasure and passion you both feel in between the sheets. Devour this 6-page special report and then watch this 7-minute video seen by 5.4 million people                                                              (value $49)



                                                                                                    Total Value of Bonuses - (Value $265)




                                                                    Total Value of  the 3 Modules & Bonuses    (Value $856)

I didn't want price to be a barrier and for this to be easy to say YES to... 
but still, a large enough investment that you take it seriously…                   Today  Price  $129.00

If I personally walked you through each module and helped you master the Bridging The Gap Between Us method, it would cost you $3,997… and be totally worth it.



This Webinar is for people like you who want to:

Stop driving each other crazy

Stop hurting each other's feelings and pushing each other away

Stop settling and suffering in silence

Start communicating on a way that creates openness, honesty and connection

Start having your needs... and their needs... matter and get met

Start feeling like a partners, friends and lovers again

Kick-Start your intimacy, romance and passion

Start turning around your harmful habits, painful patterns and sabotaging beliefs

Get excited to acquire the relationship skills you need

Get ready to create the relationship you secretly wish you had

"Heidi you have helped me open my heart and be open to receiving love. You've helped me soften in ways that I didn't even know was possible."

​Brittany, Mill Valley, Ca

Is This Webinar For You?

 

This ISN'T for you if:

  • You want to use these tools to manipulate your partner and get your way.
     

  • You just want to blame your partner.
     

  • You are looking for an easy solution or quick-fix that never lasts.
     


Okay, now that we got that out of the way,

 

 

This IS FOR you if:
 

  • You want to spend less time in the therapist's office arguing over who caused the current upset and more time in the life enjoying each other.
     

  • Your relationship is worth working on and you are willing to do the work - you just need to now what to do and how to do it...
     

  • You're a couple in crisis and need to do something before it's too late to save your relationship.
     

  • You're a couple stuck in a rut where the same issues keep showing up time and time again without being resolved and you are ready to change.
     

  • You're a couple in good shape but you want more tools and techniques to increase the amount of love, intimacy, and understanding you experience daily.
     

  • You're single and you want to know ‘what went wrong’ in your last relationship, so you don't make the same mistakes.
     

Are you ready to make having a Remarkable Relationship a priority?

If so, then let's get you registered for my upcoming webinar by entering your name and email in the space below. If you are super busy like me and need a reminder texted to me... include your cell phone.

 

Oh yes, you may want to know why we made this webinar free for now?

Two main reasons:


1) We have been given so much by my mentors, I wanted to 'Pay It Forward'... to give back and to make a difference for couples that are going through painful times and feeling confused.

2) We love what we do and we love working with motivated couples that still love each other but don't have the tools, training or skills they need to solve the problems that come with having a meaningful relationship. 

The second reason is this... from time to time we do relationship workshops, webinars and private, personalized mentoring for those who want to master the methods they need to make their relationship remarkable...

If you think this may be for you, this is a chance to see if you resonate with our mentoring style and what I have to reveal.

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