5 Signs Your Relationship Is Worth Saving

Paul Sterling, relationship coach and the best-selling author of Argue Less - Love More, reveals his most powerful method for helping couples deal with difficult situations and turn their relationships around.

“Have You Ever Noticed That The Person You Love
The Most... Can Be The Most Difficult To Talk To?

And... When Communication Falls Apart,  Are You
Left Wondering If Your Relationship Is Next?

Discover How To Get Out of This Downward
Spiral Before It Costs You Your Relationship!”

"The normal outcome of most communication... is misunderstanding" 

-  Marshall Rosenberg (creator of Nonviolent Communication)

My name is Paul Sterling, and for the over 25 years I have been driven by the idea that there has to be a better way to communicate with the people we love.  I wanted to find a way off the emotional rollercoaster that impacts so many relationships.

This journey for answers took me around the world. It started out as a desperate attempt to help myself (one divorce and multiple broken engagements) learn new skills.

What ended up happening is my life headed in a whole new direction. This included writing a #1 best-selling book on communication for relationships and a series of workshops and a relationship coaching career.

Here is a principle that became very clear to me "If you want a remarkable relationship, you need remarkable relationship skills." 

The big question is which skills?

 

Here is what one of my mentors had to say about that:

"The quality of your relationship is based on the quality of your communication."

                                                                                                                     Tony Robbins

 

And that one skill is where I 'm going to focus today. 

COMMUNICATION.

A very specific kind of communication - Compassionate Communication!

Most of us were taught how to talk, but very few of us were taught the remarkable relationship skill of communicating compassionately.

* Being able to listen so that your partner wants to talk to you and when they do, they feel heard, understood and valued.

* Being able to talk so that your partner really wants to listen to you and you get to feel heard, understood and valued.

 They say "You teach what you need to learn."  So when it came to relationship and communication - I needed to learn 3 things: 

Look at what happened to these couple's relationships when they
learned and applied these Compassion Communication Methods...

1) Avoid making the gap between you bigger and pushing your partner away.

There are 5 common communication mistakes that will trip you up, trigger your partner, and stop communication in its tracks. If you make them, your partner will pull away, get defensive, flee from intimacy, become resistant, and stop listening to you…

“I was desperate for better communication with my beloved. We felt like cats and dogs trying to get along and understand one another. This course gave us the tools, language and infrastructure we both successfully use.

We now feel a breath of new possibility for our future and feel a new level of intimacy and love that is deeply fulfilling and exciting.”

Melodia
San Diego, CA

2) Bridge the gap between you and bring your partner closer.

This simple, effective 4 step method will pull your partner closer, give you access to a whole new world of intimate and compassionate communication that leaves you both of you feeling heard, understood and valued.

“Paul gave us some simple tools to use the very first session and we noticed a difference right away. Each week we learned more tools and Paul helped us to strengthen the ones he taught us in the beginning.

We really appreciate the convenience of using Skype for our sessions. Our relationship had never been better, our only regret is we did not find him 25 years ago.”

Rick and Sandy
Phoenix AZ

3) Clean up and Repair Relationship Breakdowns.

No matter how much you love each other and no matter how many communication courses you’ve both taken… there will be misunderstandings, arguments, conflicts and hurt feelings. Meet these meltdowns with confidence, compassion, and curiosity and turn those breakdowns into breakthroughs

“I started out feeling hopeless and alienated in my marriage. I wondered if it was over and used this workshop as my last effort.

I came away feeling empowered, hopeful and willing to surrender to unconditionally loving my partner. The future is wide open and we get to choose from awareness not paying.”

Linda
N.Y, New York

Now I want to share what I learned with you. This is why I have created this course...

Bridging the Gap Between Us
Compassionate Communication Course For Couples

 

Here's What The Course Can Do For You, If You Apply it...

Week 1) THE 5 PAINFUL COMMUNICATIONS MISTAKES - Stop Doing Damage    

 Be able to identify them, know when you are making them and learn how to avoid these 5 mistakes in the future. You will also discover how to heal quickly and get back on track when someone gets triggered by one of these mistakes. 


Making Mistake #1 will cause your partner to stop listening to you and shut down emotionally, pulling away as fast as they can...

Making Mistake #3 causes about 90% of all misunderstandings - this one is so simple to fix once you know what it is...

Making Mistake #5 this one is the big intimacy blocker - it was also the hardest one for me to overcome... but when I did, it made all the difference.
 

 

What's this mean to you...?


Well since making these mistakes INCREASES THE GAP between you... knowing how to avoid them and how to clean up the hurt feelings when you do make them will BRIDGE THAT GAP. 

You will dramatically reduce the number of upsets, misunderstandings, and conflicts you have with your partner and at the same time increase the amount of open & honest communication you have between you... 

 

 

Week 2) THE 4 STEPS TO INSTANT INTIMACY     

Master this simple (not always easy) 4 step method and you will be able to enter your partner's world so deeply they may think you can read their mind. 

What's this mean to you...? 

When you listen to the people you love using this method, they will feel heard, understood & valued. Think about that -  how would that impact your lover, your family members, your kids?

You can dissolve disagreements, clear up misunderstandings in minutes and meet conflicts with courage, compassion and even curiosity...
 

 

Week 3) THE 7 SECRETS TO A REMARKABLE RELATIONSHIP   

Apply just one of THESE 7 SACRED SECRETS - each week and watch the smile come back for both of you

Use Tip #1 and you will make your partner feel like a winner. This one super-simple and effective, you can try it tonight.

Tip #2 shows you what the greatest gift you can give is... I guarantee this will shock you. Hint, it has nothing to do with the bedroom...

Tip #4 is the big intimacy builder - it shows why the people you are listening to rarely feel heard and what to do about - this is a game-changer.

Tip #7 when people said, "Don't sweat the small stuff" they were so wrong. When you understand this one, you will see why that actually grows the gap instead of bridging it.

What's this mean to you...? 

Your future will start to look pretty damn bright. You will discover How to Make Daily Deposits In Your Relationship Account 

Here's The Logistical Stuff You May Want To Know... 

Bridging The Gap Between Us: Is an online course that has 3 main modules and is designed to be taken over 3 weeks. You can compress that amount of time, or drag it out, depending on your learning style.

Each module has 4 or 5 lessons. These pre-recorded lessons are short (15 - 26 minutes)  audios in MP3 format. These MP3s are downloadable onto your computer, phone, ipod so that you can listen to them from almost anywhere, commuting to work, working out at the gym or doing the dishes...

There is also a journal you can download and print out so you can take notes and track your progress.

Transcripts are included if you want to follow along with the audio

Printable Handouts to use for the exercises
 

What is bridging the gap worth to you?

I had one client come and tell me they had seen 6 therapists and spent $1,000s and $1,000s of dollars before coming to me and learning the Bridging The Gap Between Us Method...

They came in feeling skeptical and pretty hopeless. At the end of our work together they called it the "Gold Standard" and they continue to use the tools they learned on a daily basis.

Many years ago I traveled to Sweden and spend almost a month immersed in international training with people from around the world all gathered to learn... and share the secrets of Compassionate Communication. 

That was the best $5,500 I ever invested in myself and my relationship.

I know that you may not have a spare $5,500 and a month of free time to spend traveling around the world... so I took over one hundred hours and created this course for you...

The best part is I bring it to you, you can get the lessons over your laptop, cell phone, tablet, ipod - and even though it's worth much more than $5,500 to me, it's won't cost you a fraction of that.

Imagine how you would impact your relationship if you could...

* Avoid the 5 most common communication mistakes that cause most of your relationship upsets, trigger your partner and destroy any chance of intimacy or connection...

* Talk about important, emotional and stressful issues without taking it personally or making it personal...

* Have challenging conversations without the need for attacking your partner or defending yourself...

* Instantly create intimacy and understanding with your lover...

* Clear up misunderstandings in minutes rather than days...

* Resolve conflicts quickly, confidently, compassionately and with curiosity...

* Talk in a way that has your partner listening to your every word and understanding you...

* Listen in a way that makes your partner want to open up and tell you everything...

Here is what couples are saying about Paul's method...

“My relationship was so broken and was only a matter of time before ended. We had turned into roommates rather than partners, and only roommates that were living together out of necessity. We are only about halfway through the course and I can already see unlimited possibility.

My book of life now has chapters of blank pages at the end for me to write whatever story I want. My relationship that used to look like a tree struck by lightning now has new growth green leaves. I’m looking forward to eating the juicy fruit it will bare.”

Ben
Santa Cruz, CA

“We found your language and examples amazingly easy to grasp. And they were so immediately useful that the general "tone" of our relationship changed dramatically after only one session.
We can't thank-you enough!”

K.L
Denver, CO

“We’ve done lots of relationship work, and I thought we were pretty advanced. The modules gave us the tools, and the retreat reinforced their application in practice, to come closer than before; recognize the beauty in each other even more; and allow us to create our own path to a brighter future together.”

Buck
Los Gatos, CA

“After many attempts at couples work with other individuals, working with Paul has finally helped my partner and I breakthrough to a new place of understanding and appreciation for one another."

Jessie
- Essex Junction VT

Here is my Promise to You...

Got Questions? Here are some answers for you...

 What If My Partner Won't Do It, Should I Do It By Myself?

 What we are in crisis and need some help now?

 What if i can't keep up - I'm very busy?

 How can I get my partner to do this with me?

Now here is my invitation to you...

You have read this far... so I am guessing you are committed to stop the suffering and find a solution. 

Fair enough?

But here is the problem. Information by itself rarely changes anything. If you really want to transform your relationship skills, you have to integrate that information into a daily practice. To move towards mastery.

If you know that your relationship was meant for more... and if this calls to you, then now is the time to take action and Bridge The Gap in your relationship.

"You didn't come this far, only to come this far... You were made for more. More Love, More Intimacy, More Romance, More Open and Honest Communication and More Understanding.

Let's get started today -  here's what to do. Scroll to the bottom of the page, fill out the info below and start lesson #1 today.

Then make a commitment to yourself that you are going to complete it... It won't always be easy, but it will be worth it. Your relationship is worth it and more importantly, you are worth it.

Bridging the Gap Between Us
Compassionate Communication Course For Couples

 

Let's recap what you get...

Module 1) THE 5 PAINFUL COMMUNICATIONS MISTAKES

Stop Triggering Each and Damaging Your Relationship. Spend Less Time Upsetting Each Other 
and More Time Enjoying Each Other (Value $97)

Module 2) THE 4 STEPS TO INSTANT INTIMACY
Create Instant Intimacy, Resolve Conflicts, Clear up Misunderstandings In Minutes, Listen So Your Lover Wants to talk & Talk So You Lover Wants to Listen and You Both Feel Heard, Understood and Valued (Value $97)

Module 3) THE 7 SECRETS TO A REMARKABLE RELATIONSHIP
These are the 7 Keys To The Kingdom - These 7 tips and techniques are like having a roadmap taking you towards a Remarkable Relationship (Value $97)

Total Value of Modules (Total Value $291)

To Help You Get What You Want As Soon As Possible... I have added some Bonuses.

BONUS 1) ARGUE LESS, LOVE MORE: Get instant access to my best selling book: 
This book is a deep dive into what to do… and what not to do if you want your partner to talk to you. It is easy to read and full of examples and exercises                                                                       (value $19) 

 

BONUS 2) IF YOU WANT A REMARKABLE RELATIONSHIP... YOU'LL WANT THESE REMARKABLE RELATIONSHIP SKILLS: Compassionate Communication is one of the 7 Critical Relationship Skills That You Will Want To Master. This will be a live and interactive webinar.              (value $197) 

 

BONUS 3) INTIMACY DOESN'T START IN THE BEDROOM: Time to increase the amount of pleasure and passion you both feel in between the sheets. Devour this 6-page special report and then watch this 7-minute video seen by 5.4 million people (value $49)


Total Value of Bonuses - (Value $265)

Total Value of the 3 Modules - (Value $291)

Total Value of the 3 Modules & Bonuses (Value $556)

I didn't want price to be a barrier and for this to be easy to say YES to...
but still, a large enough investment that you take it seriously… Todays Price $69.00

If I personally walked you through each module and helped you master the Bridging The Gap Between Us method, it would cost you $3,997… and be totally worth it.



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Last year, I hosted an exclusive 90-day course on how to create Delicious Love. Couples paid $3,997.00, individuals paid $2,997.00 to attend this exclusive event over the internet. I recorded both days on video and have never shown them to ANYONE.

If someone who is ready to discover the secrets of making your relationship REMARKABLE...

Rather than pay almost $4,000 for this life-changing course, check the box above to add the entire workshop to your order for just $97 month...

Each week you will get another module with the videos, the Q & A Sessions, the reading materials and all of the exercises my high paying clients got (and loved) - the one thing you will be missing my personalized attention... 

 

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“I started out feeling hopeless and alienated in my marriage. I wondered if it was over and used this workshop as my last effort. I came away feeling empowered, hopeful and willing to surrender to unconditionally loving my partner.

The future is wide open and we get to choose from awareness, not pain.”

 

Linda P.  - NY, NY

Join me for this FREE, LIVE, INTERACTIVE event.
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This Webinar is for people like you who want to:

Stop driving each other crazy

Stop hurting each other's feelings and pushing each other away

Stop settling and suffering in silence

Start communicating on a way that creates openness, honesty and connection

Start having your needs... and their needs... matter and get met

Start feeling like a partners, friends and lovers again

Kick-Start your intimacy, romance and passion

Start turning around your harmful habits, painful patterns and sabotaging beliefs

Get excited to acquire the relationship skills you need

Get ready to create the relationship you secretly wish you had

"Heidi you have helped me open my heart and be open to receiving love. You've helped me soften in ways that I didn't even know was possible."

​Brittany, Mill Valley, Ca

Is This Webinar For You?

 

This ISN'T for you if:

  • You want to use these tools to manipulate your partner and get your way.
     

  • You just want to blame your partner.
     

  • You are looking for an easy solution or quick-fix that never lasts.
     


Okay, now that we got that out of the way,

 

 

This IS FOR you if:
 

  • You want to spend less time in the therapist's office arguing over who caused the current upset and more time in the life enjoying each other.
     

  • Your relationship is worth working on and you are willing to do the work - you just need to now what to do and how to do it...
     

  • You're a couple in crisis and need to do something before it's too late to save your relationship.
     

  • You're a couple stuck in a rut where the same issues keep showing up time and time again without being resolved and you are ready to change.
     

  • You're a couple in good shape but you want more tools and techniques to increase the amount of love, intimacy, and understanding you experience daily.
     

  • You're single and you want to know ‘what went wrong’ in your last relationship, so you don't make the same mistakes.
     

Are you ready to make having a Remarkable Relationship a priority?

If so, then let's get you registered for my upcoming webinar by entering your name and email in the space below. If you are super busy like me and need a reminder texted to me... include your cell phone.

 

Oh yes, you may want to know why we made this webinar free for now?

Two main reasons:


1) We have been given so much by my mentors, I wanted to 'Pay It Forward'... to give back and to make a difference for couples that are going through painful times and feeling confused.

2) We love what we do and we love working with motivated couples that still love each other but don't have the tools, training or skills they need to solve the problems that come with having a meaningful relationship. 

The second reason is this... from time to time we do relationship workshops, webinars and private, personalized mentoring for those who want to master the methods they need to make their relationship remarkable...

If you think this may be for you, this is a chance to see if you resonate with our mentoring style and what I have to reveal.

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“I was desperate for better communication with my beloved. We felt like cats and dogs trying to get along and understand one another. This course gave us the tools, language and infrastructure we both successfully use. 

We now feel a breath of new possibility for our future and feel a new level of intimacy and love that is deeply fulfilling and exciting.”                                                     

Melodia, San Diego, CA

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Aren't you tired of the drama, issues, upsets, conflicts, and misunderstandings and neither of you getting your needs met in your relationship?

Paul Sterling -
Your Relationship & Intimacy Coach: 


Creator of Love By Design - Make Your Relationship Remarkable Method.  The system came from over 25 years of coaching couples through so many of life's issues.
 

During those years, Paul trained in neuro-linguistic programming and neuro-associative conditioning, plus he studied with Anthony Robbins, Bob Proctor (of The Secret), The amazing, Byron Katie and Marshall Rosenberg - The creator of NVC (Nonviolent Communication) 

 

He combined all of this knowledge with his own experience to write his book on relationship communication "Argue Less, Love More'.

This book became Amazon Best Seller with both couples and counselors because of its simplicity and usefulness. The exercises at the end of each chapter can help you to improve YOUR relationships.

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Paul has consulted for governments and businesses and taught his communication method in high schools, universities, churches, and even prisons. He has taught from Hawaii to Hong Kong and from Alaska to Bali.
 

He has had his own newspaper column and has been interviewed by numerous newspapers, TV shows, and radio talk shows around the U.S.  and even made appearances on Russian TV. 

Client Feedback - Read and see if can relate...


“I was afraid of intimacy and uncomfortable in my body therefore avoiding dating. My work with Heidi helped me open up completely and to have the courage to find love again. I did and its been amazing...

 

​ Lisa C, Hilo, HI

                                                             

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“After many attempts at couples work with other individuals, working with Paul has finally helped my partner and I breakthrough to a new place of understanding and appreciation for one another."
 

Jessie, Essex Junction VT
 

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“I was desperate for better communication with my beloved. We felt like cats and dogs trying to get along and understand one another. This course gave us the tools, language, and infrastructure we both successfully use. 

We now feel a breath of new possibility for our future and feel a new level of intimacy and love that is deeply fulfilling and exciting.”

 

Melodia  - San Diego, CA
 

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I sought Heidi struggling with intimacy, boundaries and codependency issues. I was frustrated and my life lacked excitement, inner peace and happiness. Today I’m more at peace and my energy has shifted. I’m discovering the healthier I become, the healthier my relationship with my husband becomes.
My work with Heidi has carried into all aspects of my life. Even when faced with difficult decisions, I know it’s all going to work out in the end. Thank you Heidi.


​Nicole P, Bend, Oregon

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“We found your language and examples amazingly easy to grasp.  And they were so immediately
that the general  "tone" of our relationship changed dramatically after only one session.

We can't thank you enough!”

 

K.L Denver, CO
 

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“Paul gave us some simple tools to use the very first session and we noticed a difference right away.  

Our relationship had never been better, our only regret is we did not find him 25 years ago.”

 

Rick and Sandy, Phoenix AZ
 

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“I started out feeling hopeless and alienated in my marriage. I wondered if it was over and used this workshop as my last effort. I came away feeling empowered, hopeful and willing to surrender to unconditionally loving my partner.

The future is wide open and we get to choose from awareness, not pain.”

 

Linda P.  - NY, NY

 

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“I came to Paul as a last-ditch effort to save my relationship.  I had tried everything I could think of to get my relationship "unstuck" over many years and nothing worked. 

Having tried marriage counseling (unsuccessfully) earlier in our relationship, we were both a bit skeptical about trying a coach.  We figured if a psychologist couldn't help, then how could a relationship coach be of benefit.  All I can say is, that I'm glad we took the chance with Paul - it's making a huge difference for us.  

 

As a couple, we interact differently and have largely ridded ourselves of the detrimental communication patterns we had fallen into and couldn't get out of by ourselves.  We are happier and more open with one another now and enjoy the new space that has opened up for us.

Our thanks go to Paul as well as our recommendation.  He's exceptionally good at what he does”.

 

M.L. San Diego, CA
 

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“My fiancé signed us up for your 3-hour workshop. I have studied quite a bit of self-help strategies for relationships over the years as well as studied psychology in college. 

The tools you have given us, as well as the guidance to effectively use them are invaluable. Your method is truly magic as you have brilliantly woven together many different techniques and methods to create something that is so simple, yet so effective because it’s easy to learn and remember!

I am finding that I am using the communication tools you have taught us in all my relationships, not just with my fiancé. I feel more confident and comfortable in myself and within my relationships. I have more patience than I have ever had!

I highly recommend your workshop, and think everyone should seize the opportunity to learn your magic relationship techniques!   Thank you from all my heart,”

 

 

Jennifer F. - Burlington, VT

 

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